Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
As promised inshaAllah, this is the second of the #Convertsations that will discuss the topic of hijab, but more specifically, clothing.
Do I have to throw out all my old clothes when I become Muslim? This is a topic that’s close to my heart subhanAllah. I remember when I first became Muslim and the concept of hijab and it’s importance was explained to me.
I vividly remember ripping open the doors to my wardrobe, black bin bag in hand, READY to throw everything in there that wasn’t floor length, full sleeved or was low cut! And then my mom stopped me and said “why are you throwing out all your clothes? You know you can wear them in the house or keep them for when you get married right?”
Now, for those that were born Muslim, it will be obvious to you as a reader that clothes that don’t adhere to the conditions of hijab can be worn in the house, depending on whether there are mahram or non- mahram there. But for me, I was so used to seeing Muslim women outside of the hone, it was all new to me.
So what can you wear around mahrams?
Firstly, there is no awrah (covering) between a man and wife according to the opinion of Sheikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen based on ayahs 5-6 in Surah al-Mu’minoon in which it says:
“And they who guard their private parts, Except from their wives…. for indeed, they will not be blamed”
A’isha (ra) also narrated a hadith in which she and the Prophet (saw) used to make ghusl (a ritual bath to purify oneself after a major impurity such as sexual intercourse) from the same vessel:
“The Prophet (saw) and I used to do ghusl – i.e., from janaabah (impurity following intercourse) – from one vessel, taking it in turns to dip our hands into the vessel.”
And you can’t make ghusl with your clothes on!
The general consensus from my research into this subject is that a woman cannot uncover what is not considered customary infront of children or her mahrams. The only person that should see her in tight clothing is her husband.
I formulated this opinion based on the fawtwa (legal ruling) given by Sheikh Saalih al-Fawzaan in which he says:
It is not permissible for a woman to wear short clothes in front of her children and mahrams, or to uncover more than is customary in front of them of that which will not cause any fitnah. She may wear short clothes in front of her husband only.
So, do you have to throw out all your old clothes? NO, you don’t. But as Muslim women we have to be fully aware and concious of our great status in this deen. As a daughter, you hold the keys to jannah for your parents, as a wife you are half of someone’s deen and as a mother, jannah lies at your feet inshaAllah. These are big indications as the the status of a woman in Islam. Currently, in our society, we are bombarded by pictures of half naked women and those who are ‘clothes but appear naked’ as shown in the hadith of Rasulullah (saw). It can be hard to see the wood through the trees and remember the blessings of hijab that Allah swt has bestowed on you.
If there’s a dress in particular that you like but it doesn’t adhere to the conditions of hijab, wear it in the house, try to hijabify it (I’ll write a post on this later inshaAllah) or better yet, save it for your husband inshaAllah. For Allah swt loves to see a man and wife prosper and Shaytaan sends out his army of jinn specifically to split a husband and wife for that is one of the most beloved actions to him (may allah swt protect us from the whispers of Shaytaan, Ameen.)
Wasalaam – Peace Be Upon You