Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
Every birth is unique and you’ll hear a lot of birth stories when news gets around that you’re expecting. If you’re anything like me, hearing the gory details won’t make you feel queasy but, I was amazed by the readiness for women to share their negative birth experiences. I feel like I had to search high and low to find a positive experience.
When I say positive experience, I don’t mean the birth that you planned necessarily. I didn’t get the birth I planned but the experience was beautifully positive, resulting in a happy mother and child at the end.
STEP ONE: DON’T OVER-PLAN
Midwives will recommend that you make a birth plan so you have a rough idea of what procedures you will and won’t want performed when you’re in labour. As a start I would recommend you do this too but that’s pretty much where my planning ended. As a usual perpetual planner, I chose not to over plan my birth. The trouble with over planning is, if things don’t go to plan it can often be quite upsetting to not get the birth you want. This was my first step to a positive birth experience.
STEP TWO: TAKE DEEP BREATHS
I thought breathing techniques were a load of rubbish. All that panting and ‘breathing from your core’ but I was SO wrong. Having the right breathing techniques, learning to breath from my core and fully inflating my lungs made the lead up to and active part of my labour a breeze. Take some classes or if you don’t have time, hop on YouTube and educate yourself.
STEP THREE: GAS AND AIR IS YOUR FRIEND
I was pretty adamant I didn’t want an epidural or any other heavy duty pain relief while I was in labour…. but I was pretty sure about the gas and air. Friends had told me how it was amazing and labour was a walk in the park with it but I didn’t believe them, until I got my own. I am literally a walking gas and air advocate now and would recommend anyone try it before thinking of requesting something strong. The trick is to couple your breathing techniques with the gas and air to get the best effect. For me, taking it leading up to the contraction and then riding on the after effects worked wonders.
STEP FOUR: TRUST WHAT YOUR BODY IS DOING
Throughout my labour I listened to my body. When I felt like eating I did, when I needed to change positions I changed (which resulted at one point in me doing the splits on my sister’s living room floor) and if I needed to pee I went. It was the same during the pushing stage. I didn’t need to be told when to push, I just knew it was the right time. When I felt like pushing I pushed.
In labour and in life, as a women we need to learn to listen to our bodies. Take time to connect with yourself, know yourself, and it will make the process just that little bit easier.
Ofcourse there was some pain/ discomfort when I was labouring but it was no where near the horror stories I had heard along the way. Any situation can be changed by having a positive mindset.
How was our labour experience? What advice would you go back and give to yourself? Share, like and comment below!