Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
Dua is the weapon is the believer. We know this is true. But do we appreciate the dua of the parent?
The reward of a woman, from the time of pregnancy until birth and breastfeeding, is the same as the reward of one on the path of Allah – Makarim al-Akhlāq, pg. 238
Pregnancy is tantamount to jihad, and striving in the way of Allah swt has many great rewards. I remember when I was pregnant with M, I was constantly making dua for myself, the baby and others all the way into giving labour subhanAllah. I found it really helped with the pain.
I had previously read about Shaykh Al- Kalbaani who’s mother used to make dua for him every time she was angry with him. She once made dua that he would become the imam of the Ka’abah. Later in his life subhanAllah he was picked by King Abdullah to lead prayers in the Grand Mosque and to become the first black imam of Masjid Al- Haram in recent times alhamdulillah. This really opened my eyes to the obligation I have as a mother to my child in terms of making good and righteous duas for them.
I can think of two notable times the dua of a parent made a great impact in Islam. The Dua of Zakarriyah (as) and the dua of mother of Maryam (as).
THE DUA OF ZAKARRIYAH
My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication – Surah Ali ‘Imran ayah 38
After making such a beautiful dua, Zakarriyah was not only blessed with a beautiful child, Yahya (as), he was given a name that was not given to anyone before him. Both Zakarriyah and his wife were old and she was barren when he made this dua but they didn’t lose faith in Allah. They were sincere in their intentions and their dua and they were answered. Click the link to read more about Zakarriayh from my #MyAnbiya series.
THE DUA OF THE MOTHER OF MARYAM
The mother of Maryam (as) is mentioned in the Qur’an as the wife of Imran. She made dua to Allah swt and pledged what was in her womb to His service. She expected to deliver a boy to take on this task as typically at the time, it was men who served in the way of religion and not women. But Allah swt had other plans.
[Mention, O Muhammad], when the wife of ‘Imran said, “My Lord, indeed I have pledged to You what is in my womb, consecrated [for Your service], so accept this from me. Indeed, You are the Hearing, the Knowing. But when she delivered her, she said, “My Lord, I have delivered a female.” And Allah was most knowing of what she delivered, “And the male is not like the female. And I have named her Mary, and I seek refuge for her in You and [for] her descendants from Satan, the expelled [from the mercy of Allah] – Surah Ali ‘Imran ayah 35 & 36
The dua of the wife of Imran is a shining example of how we should make dua with the intention of acceptance in all its forms. She thought only a man could fulfill her dua but all things are possible through Allah swt.
Dua can change qadar (pre-destination) and the dua of a parent as we can see is a very powerful thing. So make dua for your children: when they make you angry, when you want good for them, when they make you sad, it doesn’t matter. Make dua for them constantly because you never know which dua will be answered in this duniya or how many of them Allah swt will reserve for their akhirah.
What duas do you make for your children?