Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
And so the journey begins!
Have you ever looked in the mirror and asked the crucial question “who am I?”
When I did this activity myself I found I was a lot of people. My mum, my dad, my sister, my husband, but who was I? I have been moulded by the people around me.
Islam teaches us that we are upon the way of our friends, so be careful who we befriend. And although I love those that are around me, having my own identity and rising above what is accepted by all to the ultimate truth held only by Allah swt is quite a task.
So who are YOU? This may not be a question you can answer right now but here are two exercise you can do to figure it out inshaAllah.
Make a list of all the characteristics you think you display on a daily basis.
Now make a list of the people you interact with on a daily basis.
Match up what characteristics from your list that these people also display.
I’m guessing that they match up pretty much perfectly. Relationships, even though we don’t always see it, are reciprocal. There is give and take in everything. You may think you’re doing all the giving but you may be taking away things you could do without. Like jealousy, envy, negativity etc.
This is just one example of how the people around us make up who we are.
This is the first step on the journey. Laying yourself bare and taking a good look. Ready for the next step? Try the following exercise and build on what you’ve already done inshaAllah.
Now, take the bad characteristics from that list and think of their opposites. For example, if someone is a miser when it comes to money, becoming more charitable would be it’s antithesis. If someone is grumpy, the opposite would be to be happy.
Write down one positive action for each negative characteristic that you would like to incorporate into your life. For myself wanted to give more charity and go to the mosque more often so now, when I go to the mosque after I have prayed I will also try and donate some money. It’s not always a great amount but I hold myself accountable for doing this action.
Choose something that will be easy for you to do. Over burdening yourself will only make the journey of self improvement harder.
When you change yourself and really transform, you will begin to see yourself re calibrate inshaAllah. You’ll see how these good characteristics become something more than just things you do. They will BECOME you.
But as the title suggests, this journey is a marathon and not a sprint. Choosing one action at a time and giving yourself time to implement is all part of being patient but NOT complacent. These are two things are very different.
Just like a marathon, the journey of self improvement and self discovery will be tiring, you will want to give u but anything in life worth having is worth working hard for.
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