Top 4 Things I Found Hard About Islam + how I overcame them

Bismillahir rahmanir raheem

This is a question I get asked a lot so I thought the best way to get the answers out there would be to blog about it. InshaAllah I’d love to do more blogs and videos about things like this so leave your questions below.

SALAH (PRAYER)

Prior to Islam there is nothing comparable to praying five times a day.

Unless you already take 5 minutes out of your day, five times every day to sit and connect with God, I’m sure you can understand why changing a routine of a lifetime would be challenging. You don’t know the words, the actions seem alien and the timings seem random. However, this is just more of an encouragement to learn the salah properly. Allah swt gave us this time to talk with Him and only Him. To leave the duniya and enter into the most sacred and spiritual of conversations to remind us of why we’re here.

HIJAB

We don’t live in a world where women are encouraged to cover, that’s a fact. We’re told to liberate our bodies, lighten up and show a little skin. But Allah swt says otherwise.

And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear therof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty – Surah An-Nur ayah 31

Covering my hair was not a problem, people wear hats and headwraps all the time. But when you’re making a religious statement with it, that’s something different. I struggled with hijab for about 6 months until I thought subhanAllah, who am I doing this for?

If it’s for the love and pleasure of Allah swt, what others think, feel or have an opinion on doesn’t matter.

DEALING WITH FAMILY

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the bonds of kinship – Bukhari

I was always a family person. But when I became Muslim, it was as if some family members expected me to become a paragon of virtue overnight and others thought I had gone crazy due to my decision.

I found that in learning to conduct myself in the best way possible as a Muslim there were things I shouldn’t partake in. For example, going to the pub for lunch,  Christenings, family parties etc. But over time we’ve all come to an understanding where we do other things like family days out, taking all of the kids to the park, family meals at my sister’s or halal restaurants alhamdulillah.

There are always halal alternatives to the life you used to live, Allah swt has not made it hard for us to still be a part of our families even if we’re Muslim and they’re not.

STRIVING TO BECOME BETTER

It’s easy to stay petty and get caught up in duniya, look how many people are stuck in this trap already, but striving to become a better person is by far one of the most difficult things. I found that it’s only recently, this has taken off for me. So I guess one lesson here would be to take your time. No one, including yourself, should expect you to be perfect now you’re a Muslim.

Mankind was created weak – Surah An-Nisa ayah 28

This duniya is the testing place and not the resting place, a point I can’t stress enough. But there is a formula you can use to get you through the times when you feel like you should have done better. InshaAllah I’ll write about that in an upcoming article so stay tuned. If you need advice on this now, 4 ways to bring you back from your breaking point, is a great start and comes with a free printable.

This article is for the soon to be reverts. The ones who have accepted Allah swt with the hearts but not yet with their tongues. You are forever in my duas because I was once you and now nearly 6 years on alhamdulillah I’m still part of the fasting growing family on the planet!

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15 thoughts on “Top 4 Things I Found Hard About Islam + how I overcame them

  1. Aleeza S says:

    SubhanAllah just the other day I was thinking about this. The struggle a new muslim might face in not only learning the deen but also in trying to fit in with the new crowd and also not breaking up with family. SubhanAllah it must have felt so alienating in the beginning. Reading your post made me realize that we “born and bred” muslims take so much for granted.

    May Allah SWT ever keep us increasing in live for this deen. Ameen

  2. Fazy says:

    Masha Allah I feel so overjoyed reading this post. What a great blessing to be a Muslim !!
    There are many sisters who are striving with their lives their families , communities for being a Muslim revert. Alhamdulillah you overcame through everything. May Allah give you so much strength to give dawah and make us better muslimahs.

  3. Amina says:

    SubhanAllah, you are so right about there being halal alternatives to everything. It takes making it a priority to seek them out. But it can’t be easy for many.

    Your journey is truly inspirational, may Allah keep you firm in your faith. I love the fact that life gives us daily opportunities to grow, learn and change our ways. It’s never too late. As long as we remember we are not here to rest but face up to our tests.

    • ChristalBlogs says:

      Ameen! I totally agree with you sis. It’s not easy at all but I hope articles like this will encourage reverts to be honest about what they struggle with and seek help and not suffer in silence because they don’t want people to think they’re bad Muslims. I’ve been through that kind of guilt and it’s horrible

  4. sakeenahbegum says:

    Thank you for your honestly and sharing your experience mashaAllah! I love reading fellow Muslimahs experience with practicing their faith and how we can overcome the hurdles inshaAllah. Very inspiring 🙂

    • ChristalBlogs says:

      Jazakillahu khayrun sis. I wish more people would be honest about things like this so reverts especially can get more help and support instead of feeling like they’re drowning in their new life. We need to trust new reverts with more information like this inshaAllah

  5. fatima says:

    I do find praying difficult at times because I am a mother. Before that, I used to pray regularly but I must accept that after having a baby, I have unfortunately become irregular. Need to work on that.

    • ChristalBlogs says:

      InshaAllah Allah makes it easy for you sis. I’m having to adjust how I pray no I’m a mom too alhamdulillah. We have to remember we are slaves of Allah swt first and foremost before even being mothers. It’s easier said than done though right? lol

  6. usranaeem says:

    Subhaan Allah ❤
    This!
    “striving for better” is so important
    because as Muslims we always try to become better & we know where we are wrong but sometimes it’s not easy but it depends on us!

  7. Chelsea says:

    Family was definitely, and still is, my biggest challenge. Especially as you get more and more into the religion and decide to stay away from certain things, like family parties or gatherings that are mixed, it gets really hard to explain those things without offended them. May Allah make it easy on us, ameen.

    • Christal Joan says:

      Ameen. I totally get it sis. It is challenging but I find it makes me more creative in the ways I can explain and involve my family in my religious life

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