Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
This is a question I get asked a lot so I thought the best way to get the answers out there would be to blog about it. InshaAllah I’d love to do more blogs and videos about things like this so leave your questions below.
Prior to Islam there is nothing comparable to praying five times a day.
Unless you already take 5 minutes out of your day, five times every day to sit and connect with God, I’m sure you can understand why changing a routine of a lifetime would be challenging. You don’t know the words, the actions seem alien and the timings seem random. However, this is just more of an encouragement to learn the salah properly. Allah swt gave us this time to talk with Him and only Him. To leave the duniya and enter into the most sacred and spiritual of conversations to remind us of why we’re here.
We don’t live in a world where women are encouraged to cover, that’s a fact. We’re told to liberate our bodies, lighten up and show a little skin. But Allah swt says otherwise.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear therof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty – Surah An-Nur ayah 31
Covering my hair was not a problem, people wear hats and headwraps all the time. But when you’re making a religious statement with it, that’s something different. I struggled with hijab for about 6 months until I thought subhanAllah, who am I doing this for?
If it’s for the love and pleasure of Allah swt, what others think, feel or have an opinion on doesn’t matter.
DEALING WITH FAMILY
Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the bonds of kinship – Bukhari
I was always a family person. But when I became Muslim, it was as if some family members expected me to become a paragon of virtue overnight and others thought I had gone crazy due to my decision.
I found that in learning to conduct myself in the best way possible as a Muslim there were things I shouldn’t partake in. For example, going to the pub for lunch, Christenings, family parties etc. But over time we’ve all come to an understanding where we do other things like family days out, taking all of the kids to the park, family meals at my sister’s or halal restaurants alhamdulillah.
There are always halal alternatives to the life you used to live, Allah swt has not made it hard for us to still be a part of our families even if we’re Muslim and they’re not.
STRIVING TO BECOME BETTER
It’s easy to stay petty and get caught up in duniya, look how many people are stuck in this trap already, but striving to become a better person is by far one of the most difficult things. I found that it’s only recently, this has taken off for me. So I guess one lesson here would be to take your time. No one, including yourself, should expect you to be perfect now you’re a Muslim.
Mankind was created weak – Surah An-Nisa ayah 28
This duniya is the testing place and not the resting place, a point I can’t stress enough. But there is a formula you can use to get you through the times when you feel like you should have done better. InshaAllah I’ll write about that in an upcoming article so stay tuned. If you need advice on this now, 4 ways to bring you back from your breaking point, is a great start and comes with a free printable.
This article is for the soon to be reverts. The ones who have accepted Allah swt with the hearts but not yet with their tongues. You are forever in my duas because I was once you and now nearly 6 years on alhamdulillah I’m still part of the fasting growing family on the planet!
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