This is not an article about regret. I could never feel regret for this beautiful gift Allah swt has given me. But, there are some things I wish I would have known before I became Muslim. Certain things that would have made my transition easier.
When I look back and reflect there are a number of things I wish I would have prepared myself for. I see these 5 things as my own personal tests from Allah swt.
When you become Muslim, it’s not just your non-Muslim friends you may lose. You may lost the friends you meet at the beginning of your journey. This doesn’t mean cutting ties with them out of malice, you may just grow apart. Each person’s imaan develops at a different rate. My advice would be to always keep ties with your Muslim sisters and exchange the Salam as is an obligation upon you.
And don’t worry, whatveer Allah swt takes, He will replace with better. Here’s my guide to reaching jannah with friends so when you do find new ones, you start on the right foot insha Allah.
You will have points of low imaan, it’s all part of the test . Some think that if you have low imaan then you’re not a good Muslim or you’re ‘not trying hard enough’. Even the Prophet’s (as) used to feel despair when his own people turned against him. Renewing your faith is so most important and it should be a continual act. The Prophet (saw) said “The heart of the son of Adam is more unstable than the boiling water in a pot.” It may boil, but don’t let the water run dry!
fasting isn’t that hard
this is a personal one to me. I distinctly remember before I embraced Islam, Muslims would constantly complain about how hard fasting was during Ramadhan. They would make others feel uncomfortable about eating/drinking in front of them and complain about Maghrib (the evening salah) being so late. My advice to you is, cherish that time in Ramadhan. Once it’s gone it’s gone and there’s no guarantee you’ll get another one. There are so many things you can do when you’re not eating that can be classed as ibaadah (worship). The Prophet Yaqoob (Jacob) (as) said “I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah.” [Surah Yusuf v.86] and we should do the same!
Those that accept you for who you are will always be there This is an important lesson. Not only for us Muslims but those considering embracing Islam and are worried they will have no one to turn to afterwards. Those that love you from the inside out will always be there. I have had the same 3 friends from university for years now and Islam didn’t change our friendship one bit alhamdulillah! They accept me for who I am, what I believe and have always respected my deen (religion/ way of life). May Allah swt guide them, Ameen. One of my best friends is a Seventh Day Adventist and since I came to Islam she has learnt a lot more about Islam. We realised we now have more in common now than we did when I was Christian subhanAllah!
keep your clothes ‘NON-MUSLIM’
You don’t have to throw away all your ‘pre-Islam’ clothes . This may seem like a trivial one but I know Muslim reverts that have done it and regretted it. Thinking you have to get rid of all your clothes can be a daunting task and may even be the thing that holds you back from coming to the deen. This may seem shallow to some but these are my experiences after all.
Most things can be ‘halalified’ i.e. putting a long sleeved top underneath or cardigan over tops etc. I was about to get rid of my clothes and my mom reminded me that just because I couldn’t wear it outside of the house, it didn’t mean I had to throw it away. I could wear the clothes I loved inside the house as much as I wanted! Alhamdulillah for the wisdom of mothers and may Allah swt guide mine to Islam, Ameen!
At the moment I’m putting together some exciting new resources for new Muslims and your feedback would be much appreciated.
What do you wish you would have known before embracing? Are you thinking about becoming Muslim?