So you thought the battle was over. No, it’s just begun.
Ramadan may be over, the samosas have been eaten and the kebabs have been destroyed. We’ve filled our bellies, laughed and enjoyed Eid with our loved ones. But how do we plan on feeding our souls for the rest of the year until next Ramadan?
It may seem crazy to think about next Ramadan so close to us saying goodbye to this one, but as the saying goes, if you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail. In looking towards the future and taking stock of this Ramadan, we can set clear consistent goals that insha Allah will take us through to the next.
So here’s how I put together my post Ramadan goals!
POST GAME DEBRIEF
The purpose of a debrief is to learn from what you did well and at times, what could have been done better. I always find that starting off with the positives makes me more realistic with the improvements.
For me, consistently reading/ reflecting on the Qur’an is one thing I found enjoyable this Ramadan. Since becoming a mum, I didn’t think I’d ever get much time to do this again but you make time for the things that are important to you. I made the decision to sign up to Bayyinah TV again and use that as my primary learning tool and it worked a treat.
One thing I didn’t do well this Ramadan is keep my temper. I started off strong and then stumbled towards the end. I discovered that, keeping things bottled up and not addressing them led to an unbelievable meltdown. It’s something that I will definitely be more conscious of in the future insha Allah.
I put together some post Ramadan prompts so you can debrief and get up to speed with how your Ramadan really went. It’s important to be honest with yourself so you can move forward and make effective change. You can download it by Christal Joan Post Ramadan Game Plan Debrief Worksheet (7 downloads) .
CHOOSING REALISTIC GOALS
When I was thinking about what I wanted to achieve during Ramadan 2017, I told myself to be realistic. The same should be done when thinking about goals going forward as well. Yes, aim high but you know your limits. Setting yourself up for failure is never good and makes it even harder to get back on track if you do slip up.
Take account of how much time you really have and what your capabilities really are. For example, you could choose to read 5 pages of Qur’an every night, but if you know you can’t do that due to time constraints that weren’t there during Ramadan you may want to reduce that number. It’s about quality, not quantity.
Part of setting realistic goals is also tracking them. I know the bullet journal world has gone off with a bang so it might be something you want to consider for yourself. Mariam Poppins has some great bullet journal inspiration over on her blog, feel free to check it out.
I’ve written on working smarter not harder in a previous blog and some of the tips could easily be applied to your post Ramadan game plan.
IT’S ALL ABOUT IBAADAH
You’ve done taraweeh (the night prayers in Ramadan). You’ve done qiyyamul layl (spending part of the night in prayer/ remembrance of Allah) in the last 10 days. Now, it’s time to see if you can carry on at least 10% of that until next Ramadan.
Your ibaadah goals don’t have to be elaborate. They’re completely personal to you, as they should be. Ibaadah (worship) is not just limited to how many rakat you pray. You may also want to think about creating a weekly dua list for each area of your life (printable coming soon insha Allah).
My ibaadah goals are:
- Praying tahajjud atleast once a week
- Reading Surah Kahf every Friday (in Arabic or translation)
- Taking the time to reflect on an ayah a week
- Give sadaqah on a weekly basis
When people hear sadaqah, they automatically think money. And money makes people panic. Can I afford it? How much is too little?
Firstly, stop. Take a breath and read this ayah.
“O you who believe! Spend of that with which We have provided for you, before a Day comes when there will be no bargaining, nor friendship, nor intercession. And it is the disbelievers who are the Zaalimoon (wrongdoers)”
Even if it’s only a few pence, it is what Allah has provided for you and insha Allah when given with the right intention could amount to Mount Uhud on the Day of Judgement!
I made a promise to myself that every time I went to the masjid and had pocket change, I’d put the lot into the charity box and not count it. So far it’s been great. It’s been a real exercise of trust for me as I don’t know how much I’m giving and putting my trust in Allah that whatever I give will not decrease my wealth but increase it in this life and the next.
If you can’t make it to the masjid to do the same I’d suggest making a sadaqah jar at home. It doesn’t have to be a fancy jar, maybe even a mason jar or an old curry jar. Whatever works for you! And if you really don’t have the money, check out my article on 5 ways to give sadaqah all year round which has a great FREE option.
How are you working towards next Ramadan and what improvements could you have made? Comment below!