Firstly, let me just address what I mean when I say hijab in the context of this article. I’m referring to the scarf that Muslim women wear on their heads and use to cover their chests.
Hijab is a hot topic amongst the Muslim and non-Muslim communities. Whether it’s Muslims debating over what is “real” hijab is or non-Muslims insisting we’re all oppressed and that we should tear it off in protest – it can be a muddy issue.
Hijab: my early thoughts
For me the concept was always simple. Before I became Muslim I knew it was an obligation. I was ever under any illusions otherwise. Why? I can’t really tell you why. Maybe Allah had already put the acceptance of hijab in my heart to some extent.
When I became Muslim, it became even more obvious why hijab needed to be a part of my identity as a Muslim.
“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
Contrary to popular belief, Allah does not legislate veiling first and foremost, to hide us from the unsolicited gaze of non-Mahram (men that I can uncover in front of) men but to help the world identify us as Muslim women. SubhanAllah, as soon as I understood this I knew it was for me.
my first time
Although I knew hijab was for me, that doesn’t mean the journey has been easy. My first hijab was actually gifted to me by none other than my mum. She came with me to Only Hijab on Ladypool Road in Birmingham and bought me the whole shabang. Hijab, pins, under scarf everything. It was plain black.
The next day I tried it on after watching a multitude of “simple hijab style” YouTube videos. I didn’t recognise myself, but in a good way. My mission, make it through the day with it on. The reality, I didn’t even make it to the end of my road. Everyday I tried it, and everyday I made it a little bit further but never all the way. I thought all eyes were on me, they probably weren’t but that’s what I felt.
About 3 months in, alhamdulillah I made it and I never looked back.
Every Muslim women must come to their own understanding of why hijab is for them. Part of why I was able to embrace hijab the way I did during my earlier years as a Muslim was because it wasn’t forced on me. Alhamdulillah, I was given the time and space as a new Muslim to grow and understand why it was a part of my Muslim identity.
I also had a (mostly) accepting family that knew this was part of being a Muslim women and so accepted it for what it was.
I now realise that this isn’t common place amongst all Muslims, whether you’re new to the deen or not. It’s not just your family that may influence your decision but society as well. With recent attacks on Muslim women because we’re ‘visible’, I can see why sister’s would struggle to embrace this command of Allah. Fozia over at Muslim Mummies recently featured Muslim bloggers (including myself) on this very subject. Head over and check it out!
I urge you sisters, remember who we’re here for. Allah. This was part of my personal growth when it came to hijab. I do it for Allah. It was always about Allah and never a man, society or to please other Muslims.
But when you decide hijab is for you, where do you buy them from?
There are so many great companies out there that sell hijabs. Hidden Pearls is just one of them. They were kind enough to send me 2 hijabs for review. One of which I chose, a white chiffon hijab from the chiffon hijab range, and one I didn’t, a green hijab with gold trimming. Although I chose the chiffon, I later found out that chiffon is really not for me.
I was also asked to write about my own hijab journey, hence this article and another to follow.
With the recent hot weather in the UK I was up for a change but chiffon is not what I’m used to or happy to work with every day. With a wedding coming up soon insha Allah, I can’t wait to try out the green hijab with some potential outfits. It’s dressy enough for me to wear there but not so dressy that I’ll feel uncomfortable.
Hijab is a command from Allah. But like anything, Allah has given us free will to decide whether we choose His path or our own with our own rules. May Allah swt make it easy for our dear sisters to embrace the hijab for the right reasons and find barakah in it, Ameen.
UPDATE: Hidden Pearls have recently branched out and started providing Islamic Gifts. With another Eid coming up, it’s worth checking out.