How to Deal with Failure

The 'Basmallah', used by Muslims because we believe every good deed should begin in the name of Allah. All the articles on Christal Joan will start with the Basmallah because nothing is possible without Allah

 

 

Failure in and of itself seems like such a terrible word.

Failure: to lack success, the neglect or omission of expected or required action (according to Google).

But dealing with failure is so much more personal than the words will allow for.

Christal Joan: Learn how to deal with failure from the Islamic perspective by reading the latest post on chirstaljoan.com

my issues with failure

Christal Joan: A quote from my latest article on how to deal with failure up on christaljoan.com

I’ve always had issues dealing with failure. My fear of failure has been a catalyst for success and a hindrance when it comes to trying new opportunities. I went years without trying new experiences and challenges because I failed to believe in myself and my capabilities. I put too much stock into getting things right the first time so I didn’t need to learn from my mistakes.

Now, looking back on my experiences from an Islamic perspective I can see where I’ve been going wrong subhanAllah. Islam praises the strong and the successful but it also commends the weak . Those who have fallen short of their best and are shown the Rahma (Mercy) of Allah swt. They are never put in competition with one another and Allah swt gives both of them their due.

 

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what i’ve learnt so far

Christal Joan: Top 4 tips on how to deal with failure taken from my article on christaljoan.com

So here’s what I’ve learnt about dealing with failure so far:

1. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try , try, try again

By the time you’ve finished complaining about, or dwelling on your past failures, new opportunities have passed you by. If our beloved Prophet (saw) sat and dwelled on all the people that didn’t accept Islam through the message, who knows what kind of Sunnah we’d be left with now!

 

2. Everything is down to the Qadar (predestination) of Allah swt and the only thing that can change that is du’a

Do yourself a favour, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and make dua. In Surah Yusuf, Yaqoob (as), father of Yusuf (as) said:

 

“I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah , and I know from Allah that which you do not know.” ayah 86

Christal Joan: A quote from Surah Yusuf taken from my latest article on how to deal with failure on christaljoan.com

Allah swt is Al-Sami (The All-Hearing). Whenever or wherever you call upon him He swt is there and listening. He swt can do for you what no other man, woman, child, or “lucky charm” can do.

 

The Prophet (saw) said “What has reached you was never meant to miss you and what has missed you was never meant to reach you.”

 

3. Everything is a test from Allah swt

We always hear this phrase but take this opportunity to really reflect on it. Yes, we may not see the worth of our struggle in the duniya, but rest assured Allah swt is building palaces in Jannah (Paradise) for you inshaAllah.

 

The Prophet (saw) said “When Allah loves a servant, He tests him.” tirmidhi

 

Your reward has always been with Allah swt and Allah swt alone. Don’t look to people to validate your struggle because only Allah swt can do that.

 

4. This duniya is lowly, we should really be striving for the akhirah

My issues with failure always came from striving for things of the duniya. When I strive in the way of Allah swt, I know that Allah swt will take into account my intentions and will compensate where I fall short inshaAllah. This, however, doesn’t mean that you can do half a job and say that all that matters is the intention. This is not the correct mindset of a believer.

Chasing the duniya will only leave you with heart break. Unless you connect the intention of your deeds to Allah swt and make du’a to Him swt to make your actions a success. If not, He swt knows why He did not give you success this time around. Trust in Him swt and you’ll never be lead astray.

 

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14 thoughts on “How to Deal with Failure

  1. FARZANA RIJAS says:

    Totally agree with all those tips for the right perspective towards failure. Especially if we can connect every happening and mishappening in our material world to a greater afterlife, everything falls into place. Jazakillah Khair sister for the reminders.

    • Christal Joan says:

      Wa iyyaki sis for the comment. It’s making the connections that people often find difficulty with but it’s about talking that time out to take stock and evaluate

  2. Haya Newleaf says:

    Masha Allah. A beneficial post!

    As we grow we confine ourselves into a shell due to the fear of failure. We need to shed it out.

    Life’s of prophets and companions were filled with difficulties/failures. Indeed success is valued more when we work hard for it.

    • Christal Joan says:

      Exactly sis! I’ve definitely done that in the past and constricted my growth because of the fear of failure. Now I live a better version of me alhamdulillah

    • Christal Joan says:

      It makes me feel better too. That’s the beauty of Islam. There’s no room for dwelling on the past because the past, present and future is all designed by Allah. Us learning to accept that is part of our tests here in the duniya

  3. Untouched By Fire says:

    A truly beneficial post and a reminder for all of us. Islam has such a unique way of looking at failures. Like the Prophet said ““Amazing is the affair of the believer, verily all of his affair is good and this is not for no one except the believer. If something of good befalls him he is grateful and that is good for him. If something of harm befalls him he is patient and that is good for him”. Jazakallahu khairan for sharing it with your readers!!

    • Christal Joan says:

      Wa iyyaki. Spot on sis! And you’re right it really does. It’s a holistic way of life that when truly embraced, can transform the most destitute into a success.

    • Christal Joan says:

      Wa iyyaki sis. It’s so true, but sometimes you need to break to repair. That’s what I’e found for myself personally. it’s not a pretty process but it gets the job done

  4. Umm ruqaiya says:

    Jazakillahu khair habibti for the reminder. Really needed with all that is happening with my nowadays with regards to blogging due to personal life situations. SubhanAllah.

    Beautiful pics by the way.

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