Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
Finding friends who truly love you for who you are is a indeed a blessing. Finding friends who love you for the sake of Allah swt is even better.
“The Prophet (saw) said: A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.”
[Abu Dawud 41:4815]
Choosing the right friends when you come to Islam is essential to how you will grow and change in the deen. But does that mean you have to leave your old friends behind?
The arguments against taking non- muslims as friends is strong and this is the verse that most people will refer to:
“O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as Awliyaa’ (friends, protectors, helpers), they are but Awliyaa’ of each other. And if any amongst you takes them (as Awliyaa’), then surely, he is one of them. Verily, Allaah guides not those people who are the Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers and unjust)” [al-Maa’idah 5:51]
Nothing should be taken out of context in Islam, which is why we should research everything with the help of learned people.
Whether I’m right for doing so or not (and insha’Allah, Allah swt will correct me if I am wrong) I have not given up on my non-Muslim friends. If anything, they give me the inspiration to correct my character so they can see what becoming a Muslim is all about in the hope that they too will turn to the deen one day.
Islam is all about balance, and working with people of other faiths is a commendable act. Look at all the work that inter-faith organisations participate in for the greater good? As much as we can proclaim that we are Muslims, Allah swt has not only made us brothers and sisters in Islam but brothers and sisters in humanity.
Islam is a communal religion. We’re encouraged to pray together, eat together, travel together etc. How would anyone become Muslim and see the true beautiful character of the Muslims if we isolate ourselves from society?
Wasalaam – Peace Be Upon You