Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
The Prophet (saw) was an expert communicator and an amazing example for us all.
38% of communication is dictated by the tone of your voice whilst 55% is physiology. From studying neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) I can totally agree with these figures. One of the greatest indicators that someone is being truthful, lying, are uncomfortable or excited is by their body language as well as their speech.
But what about the sunnah way of communicating?
THE PROPHET’S SPEECH
Aisha (ra) narrates that the Prophet’s (saw) speech was not quick and continuous but he spoke clearly word for word. Anas ibn Malik (ra) also narrated that Rasulullah (saw) sometimes repeated a word three times so his listeners understood well what he was saying.
Not only are these techniques we can emulate, they are techniques already used by public speakers, presenters and politicians the world over!
Take a deep breathe, find your speaking rhythm and put emphasis on the points that you want people to remember most.
THE PROPHET’S BODY LANGUAGE
If there’s only one person talking and the other isn’t listening is it still called a conversation? There are many who learn the art of talking but a rare few that learn the art of listening.
The Prophet (saw) was a master at the art of listening. How many people came to him for advice and truly felt like the were connecting with him when talking about their issues? More than you could ever imagine!
The Prophet (saw) used to turn his whole body towards a person when he was talking to them, not just his head, so they knew they had his full attention. How many of us actually do this? Even when it comes to our own children, do they really have our full attention when we communicate with them? Children more than anyone else are sensitive to this and it’s something we should all consider.
Non verbal and verbal communication need to be aligned so misunderstandings can be kept to a minimum (hopefully).We interact with people everyday, often on a short time scale due to busy lives, so we owe it to ourselves to make the most of those communications when they happen and never let an opportunity go astray.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Do not belittle any good deed, even meeting your brother (Muslim) with a cheerful face” [Muslim]
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