Bismillahir rahmanir raheem
Failure is a part of life that we all have to go through to grow and learn and learning to forgive yourself can be difficult.
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Everyone goes through times where you think you could have done better or things didn’t work out how you planned. But have you forgotten that Allah swt is the best of planners?
When things don’t go your way, Allah swt has given us tools to “grow through what we go through.” We just have to be willing to put in the work.
So here’s a formula to let go and keep it moving.
Have you ever made wudu when you’re angry or upset? If not you NEED to try it. Water is a calming but powerful force. Not only can it put out fire, it can cut through rock with it’s determination.
“Listen to me carefully! Shall I inform you about the deeds through which Allah eliminates mistakes and elevates your ranks? To make wudu fully and properly despite its difficulties, to go to mosque from a distant place and to wait for the next prayer after a prayer.” (Nasai, Taharah, 107)
pray 2 rakat
The beauty of nafl (voluntary) salah is that it can be done at any time, apart from the times that salah is disliked obviously. You don’t have to just limit it to 2 rakat, you could pray more if you like.
By praying 2 rakat, you are saying to Allah swt “I’m here. I’m not perfect but I pray that you guide me. Guide me to the straight path and make my trials a means for me to reach jannah. Help me to turn my failures into successes and to learn from them.”
ask allah for forgiveness and believe it
There is a subtle difference between ‘afwa and ‘maghfira. Maghfira comes after hisab – a person is shown his sins, admits them and is forgiven. ‘Afwa means that the sins have been obliterated from a person’s record by God’s grace and mercy – there is no hisab for them. – Suhaib Webb
One of the problems we have when we ask Allah swt for forgiveness is that we believe that we’re so bad, there’s no way Allah would forgive us. This is one of the biggest tricks of Shaytaan. To make you think you’re so sinful/ worthless that there’s no going back. It’s quite ironic as even Shaytaan turned to Allah swt and asked from Him after he committed the first sin.
Ask of Allah and call on Him by any of his 99 names (Al Afuw, Al Ghafoor, Ar Rahman, Ar Raheem) and mean it! When you put your trust in Allah, how can you go wrong?
After you’ve asked Allah swt for forgiveness and you’ve done it with conviction, forgive yourself. A lot of the time, when we fail to reach a goal we burden ourselves with blame. Blame = baggage and “ain’t nobody got time for that.”
The only way you can move on is if you truly MOVE ON! Don’t dwell, wallow and bathe in your past failures. Look at them from a different perspective and ask yourself how you can learn from them. Turn that failure into fortune!
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