Birmillahir rahmanir raheem
aren’t married men off guard?
Firstly, sorry for the click bait title! Yes, I fell in love with a married Muslim man BUT it’s not what you think.
I haven’t cheated on my husband and committed a major sin. Instead, I’ve committed one of the most praiseworthy acts a Muslim can do. I fell in love with Rasullulah (saw).
“None of you will have faith till he loves me more than his father, his children and all mankind.” (Bukhari)
Does this include your mother, father, grandparents, husband, children? Yes, yes it does and for good reason. This man loved us more than we love ourselves. His every action was thought out carefully to ensure that we received rewards without being over burdened. He spoke directly to Allah swt to ensure that our prayers would not be back breaking work for us but barakah in every rakah.
But what really made me fall in love with him was the way that he returned to his Lord.
Tears for the beloved
When I read about the last days of Rasulullah (saw) and his death I weeped. I remember the day. I was driving with the radio on and the sheikh was describing his last moments. How in the last few days he stressed to the people about the importance of salah (prayer). His last words to his daughter. How he left this world with his head in the lap of his beloved wife Aisha (ra).
I started to well up. The tears began to roll. This man loved us more than we loved ourselves. He cared more about our final resting place than we do right now. How could I not love him? How could I not want to be near him in jannah?
I had never cried like this for a living person let alone someone from the past who I had never met and had never met me. It was strange to me but at the same time it never felt wrong.
MY DUA TO MEET HIM
The more I learnt about this extraordinary man, the more I wanted to meet him. So I started to research all the different ways you could be close to the Prophet (saw) in jannah. Here are just a few:
- Supplicate for him
Ibn Mas`ud (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “The people who will be nearest to me on the Day of Resurrection will be those who supplicate Allah more often for me.” (Tirmidhi)
- Care for orphans
Sahl bin Sa`d (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “I will be like this in Jannah with the person who takes care of an orphan.” Messenger of Allah ﷺ raised his forefinger and middle finger by way of illustration. (Bukhari)
- Follow his sunnah
- Improve your character
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Those who are most beloved to me, and the closest to me in the Hereafter, are those who have the best akhlaq (character) amongst you.” These are the people that will have the “closest seats to me.” (Hasan by Albani)
Every Friday, and whenever else I remember, I make dua to meet him. To sit at his feet and drink from his spring of Al Kauthar in jannah while I listen to his stories. Imagine the stories, subhanAllah.
5 reasons why you should love him too
There are many reasons to love our Prophet (saw) and I wish I could list them all. I could talk about him and his life all day but, instead of getting carried away, I’ve only listed 5.
1. he was chosen and loved by Allah
“He who obeys the Messenger (Muhammad), has indeed obeyed Allah, but he who turns away, then we have not sent you (O Muhammad) as a watcher over them” [al-Nisa’ 4:80]
Do we need a better reason? On the Day of Judgement, we’ll be so happy that we chose to love and follow the Messenger (saw). He will be the only person allowed to intercede on behalf of another. And that is an intercession that we will be in need of. If Allah swt has chosen a person, yes we must love them, as we love all of the Messengers. But there’s no denying that our Prophet (saw) is special and the seal of all those who came before him. He changed a whole peninsula and his message spread from East to West and is still spreading to this very day.
2. he strived to bring us our deen
It is an obligation upon us all to pray. But if it were not by Allah’s mercy providing us with Rasulullah (saw) we wouldn’t know how. There are some who believe that because the Qur’an only specifies two prayers specifically that we should only pray twice a day and not the five stipulated by the messenger. But that’s not the opinion I follow. Alhamdulillah, without him how would we know about ruku, tashahhud, and the sitting positions? How would we determine the times? All of this information would be lost and our prayers, and that vital connection with Allah would be incomplete.
He was beaten in the street, rubbish thrown at him, ridiculed by his peers but he went through it all to please his Lord and for us.
3. we are incomplete if we don’t love him
If you met a Christian and they said they didn’t love Jesus (as) you’d be confused right? Equally, if I met another Muslim and they didn’t love the Prophet (saw) I’d be confused. This man is part and parcel of everything we do. There isn’t an aspect about his life that we don’t know about. We are incomplete as Muslims without him. Brothers, why do you grow your beards? Insha Allah not just for fashion! So much of our identities as Muslims would be erased without the legacy he left behind. Our gratitude for him should be endless.
4. he loved us dearly
The Messenger (saw) cried. The companions said, “What makes you cry, Oh Messenger of Allah?” He said, “I miss my brothers.” They said : “Are we not your brothers, Oh Messenger of Allah?” He said, “No, you are my Companions. My brothers are those who will come after me and they believe in me without seeing me.” (Ad-Darami, At-Tabaraani, Al-Hakim)
5. he was the best role model
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “I have been sent to perfect good character.” [al Muwatta: 1614]
In a world of flashy celebrities and social media fame it’s hard to see the wood from the trees when it comes to role models. But as Muslims we have been blessed with the best. He was kind, loyal, just, fair, loving, truthful and hard working. By anyone’s measure he (saw) was the most successful man of all time. You can take ANY aspect of his life and use it to transform your own. To me, coming from a professional coaching position, he is the ultimate life coach.
So yes. I fell in love with a married man. The ONLY married man it’s halal for you to fall in love with. And you should fall in love with him too.