Failure in and of itself seems like such a terrible word.
Failure: to lack success, the neglect or omission of expected or required action (according to Google).
But dealing with failure is so much more personal than the words will allow for.
my issues with failure
I’ve always had issues dealing with failure. My fear of failure has been a catalyst for success and a hindrance when it comes to trying new opportunities. I went years without trying new experiences and challenges because I failed to believe in myself and my capabilities. I put too much stock into getting things right the first time so I didn’t need to learn from my mistakes.
Now, looking back on my experiences from an Islamic perspective I can see where I’ve been going wrong subhanAllah. Islam praises the strong and the successful but it also commends the weak . Those who have fallen short of their best and are shown the Rahma (Mercy) of Allah swt. They are never put in competition with one another and Allah swt gives both of them their due.
what i’ve learnt so far
So here’s what I’ve learnt about dealing with failure so far:
1. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try , try, try again
By the time you’ve finished complaining about, or dwelling on your past failures, new opportunities have passed you by. If our beloved Prophet (saw) sat and dwelled on all the people that didn’t accept Islam through the message, who knows what kind of Sunnah we’d be left with now!
2. Everything is down to the Qadar (predestination) of Allah swt and the only thing that can change that is du’a
Do yourself a favour, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and make dua. In Surah Yusuf, Yaqoob (as), father of Yusuf (as) said:
“I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah , and I know from Allah that which you do not know.” ayah 86
Allah swt is Al-Sami (The All-Hearing). Whenever or wherever you call upon him He swt is there and listening. He swt can do for you what no other man, woman, child, or “lucky charm” can do.
The Prophet (saw) said “What has reached you was never meant to miss you and what has missed you was never meant to reach you.”
3. Everything is a test from Allah swt
We always hear this phrase but take this opportunity to really reflect on it. Yes, we may not see the worth of our struggle in the duniya, but rest assured Allah swt is building palaces in Jannah (Paradise) for you inshaAllah.
The Prophet (saw) said “When Allah loves a servant, He tests him.” tirmidhi
Your reward has always been with Allah swt and Allah swt alone. Don’t look to people to validate your struggle because only Allah swt can do that.
4. This duniya is lowly, we should really be striving for the akhirah
My issues with failure always came from striving for things of the duniya. When I strive in the way of Allah swt, I know that Allah swt will take into account my intentions and will compensate where I fall short inshaAllah. This, however, doesn’t mean that you can do half a job and say that all that matters is the intention. This is not the correct mindset of a believer.
Chasing the duniya will only leave you with heart break. Unless you connect the intention of your deeds to Allah swt and make du’a to Him swt to make your actions a success. If not, He swt knows why He did not give you success this time around. Trust in Him swt and you’ll never be lead astray.